Here's To Being Misunderstood

Hi friends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Haha, I love using exclamation points even when it isn't called for, but this post calls for it!!!!

I think it's so exciting that we are going to talk about being okay with being misunderstood.

As humans, we all desperately want to be understood, seen, and loved.

We want people to take the time to see our side of things and have empathy for what we are going through. Even if you don't personally know them.

I have felt misunderstood for my whole life. By many people in my life, even people I am really close with.

I have always been the kiddo who was a little different than her peers.......okay, A LOT different. I have ideas no one thinks of. I see things in different colors and sounds than others do.

I often say that I have always felt like an alien. When I stargaze, I look up at the stars and wish that the aliens would come take me away from this planet. I wish they would take me somewhere where I could be understood.

Where empathy is easy for others.

Where life is better.

Where education thrives, and people believe in science.

Where intelligence is everywhere.

Where emotional maturity and emotional regulation are basic nature.

Grass is always greener on the other side, aye?

I want to live in a world where we take the time to care for others and try to understand who they are. I want to be the kind of person who understands others and makes them feel seen.

If we could all take more time to care for one another and attempt to see things from different perspectives, we would be more loving to one another. Life would be happier and full of more empathy.

People caring for one another fiercely and without reason.

People being good to one another.

People taking care of one another.

At the end of the day, we're all walking one another home anyway.

I have always felt a little out of place. The girl who was too much. Too loud. Too opinionated. Too weird. Too different.

I have often felt like people misunderstand me more times than not.

I see the world differently, and the way I see it is unique. I have ideas and passions that are dear to my heart.

I see people like paintings.

Complex and full of wonder.

But whole and never beyond repair.

Art is misunderstood most times, like most humans.

We have all been there. That one person didn't understand what you were trying to say and is now upset with you. Someone jumps to conclusions (hey, I've done this myself) and now thinks something of you that you're not. Your friend believes a rumor about you before talking to you about it. People judge us by our looks and what we are wearing. We judge people off one interaction we have with them.

It is painful to feel misunderstood.

It is lonely to feel misunderstood.

It is freeing to be misunderstood!

We often think about the hurt that comes along with feeling isolated and alone. When humans feel separate and shunned by others, they feel intense feelings of melancholy and experience turmoil in their minds.

Humans feel all alone, like they're buried alive in a sealed coffin.

Screaming for someone to hear them and save them.

Hoping someone can notice their mistake and realize you're worth saving.

Hoping someone will see you for who you are and accept you as you are.

I think sometimes being misunderstood can be a liberating thing.

Sometimes we can dig ourselves out of the grave and take back control from the despair.

We can choose to stand up in the light and be who we are unapologetically!

We can choose to love who we are and not care what others think.

The truth is, everyone has their view of you, and you can't control what that is.

The stranger is going to misjudge or misperceive you. That's okay. It is okay to not be understood by everyone. Love yourself anyway.

You're not gonna be everyone's cup of tea, but you will be the right people's favorite kind of tea.

Cling to those people and love them with all you have.

Be kind to the stranger at the store, forgive your friends, love your partner in the biggest romantic way possible, be there for your family, and actually love your neighbor. Do it with meaning.

Every single person is dealing with their own struggles and doing the best they can to get through life, just like you.

Be kind and show love in everything you do. Be empathetic and remember not to take things personally. Sometimes we just have bad days and don't handle things well, and take it out on other people. We all mess up. We all fall short.

Love the stranger anyway, even when they're grumpy.

My point is to treat one another well.

Listen to understand, not respond.

Do good to others and love people boldly.

It's okay to be sad about being misunderstood.

It's okay to be mad about it.

It's also okay to reclaim it and love others and yourself regardless.

To those who struggle with this, I am sending you love and hoping you can find the freedom in being who you are, no matter what.

I STRUGGLE WITH THIS! We all want to be understood and valued by others.

BUT remember (and this means you, Rachael!), people will misunderstand you, but you will always be who you are, and you should be unapologetic about it!

BE YOU UNAPOLOGETICALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love yourself even when others misunderstand you. Especially when people misunderstand you.

As always, be kind to one another and do everything with love.

My social media direct messages are always open, and please reach out if you need support. My social media can be found here or at the bottom of my page.

And to my fellow outcasts...

Here's to being misunderstood....

Cheers!

Unapologetically Rachael